Yeah I know where you’re coming from. I guess all of us, if not most are guilty of this. There’s nothing wrong with trying to get along and fit in.
But I was definitely biased in my initial example of that guy. I was close to him once. It was my folly to not see the signs that he was highly toxic.
Him reading up the Olympics and World Cup was just the tip of the iceberg. He did a ton of more fake shit that literally dragged the rest of us down.
And none once he’d apologize for anything.
Sure enough, all of us, and I mean ALL of us fell out with him when something major happened.
So for the lesson was that if someone is simply… well, trying way too hard, it could be something really bigger and toxic.