There’s A Huge Difference Between Love And Obsession

Originally from my blog:

This is my answer to people who feel like they can’t get over a past relationship or if they feel unloved because the other party doesn’t feel the same whatsoever.

And then it takes literally years for them to move on.

There is a huge difference between love and obsession.

Love is freedom. Love lets go. Fear holds tightly while you look around, scared.

Love can hurt, but it’s a beautiful kind of pain, one where you know deep down you’re extremely thankful for the love you got to experience, even if it was just for a little bit.

Obsession leaves a kind of pain where you end up being hurt, confused and ultimately disgusted with yourself.

Love is simply wanting him or her to be happy and that is your first priority.

Love is when you meet you the magical genie and you only say, “I wish for her to be happy. I wish for her to be happy. I wish for her to be happy.”

Love is when you pray, “I only ask that she is happy.”

Obsession is when you want him or her to yourself only.

Love is natural. It doesn’t feel like you have to try so hard all the time.

Obsession requires too much thinking. Whenever you think, you escape from your heart and go to your head. If you’re doing this all the time, you’re missing the point.

Love is a knee jerk reaction. You always wonder, “How did I ever get so lucky to have her in my life?” And you smile whenever you think that everyday.

Obsession is a mess. You only worry about all the stupid little things you feel you have to do just to get a reaction out of him or her.

They say that love is blind, but notice that it is others who tell you this. Nobody ever tells themselves that they’re blind. You feel what you feel and that is your answer.

Obsession is what makes you blind, deaf, tired and dumb.

Everybody has the correct answer deep down within their being. But only love gives you the clarity. Obsession is only denial.

Love is evolution.

If that means being together, nobody would wish to travel back in time because they cannot wait to create a life together.

If that means not being together, you’re ultimately thankful anyway because you know you’ve become a better person despite the pain.

That’s why you can be well on your way and love would give you the courage to take those steps on your own.

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