The Approval Of Others Really Don’t Matter

You know, as a Bboy, ultimately you’d want to know how good you look. It’s not so much for the approval of others, although that would be nice. I mean, the cheers and props given by the crowd is always awesome.

But ultimately, it doesn’t matter.

Especially during practice.

What matters most is what you think about yourself and what you think about yourself is derived when you actually see yourself.

For us Bboys, we got videos, which we painstakingly take just to see ourselves.

That’s all that matters.

You’re your own teacher.

You’re the best judge.

You’re your master.

The thing about others’ approval is that it’s way too easy to mouth off. I mean, I bet you’re guilty of it too.

How often has it been that you give criticism or feedback to your friend just so you can actually feel good about yourself and not to actually help them?

How often do you pull your punches because you actually don’t want to hurt their feelings?

How often is it that you’re actually bitching, bitching, bitching and bitching?

So, just count on yourself the most.

Trust your own advice. Trust your own words. Trust what you see. Trust your own gut.

Fuck others, you know yourself best, but of course, watch yourself so you actually know what you’re talking about.

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