When people say, “Put yourself in their shoes”, it’s almost usually the case of the shoes being very old and dirty.
That means to say, the wearer is poor, down on his luck or in some unfortunate circumstances.
The dirty shoes and asking you to snug into them is usually derived from a sense of sympathy.
Then you’re asked to do something to help them.
But what if the shoes are evil? What if the shoes look expensive, albeit surreptitiously bootlegged?
The shoes will come in all manner of colors, sizes, material and colors.
That means to say, the wearer could be pretentious, arrogant, an upstart or somebody who plain doesn’t care about anyone else but himself.
Unfortunately, you may not know any of this because the shoes look deceptively expensive.
And yet, you’re asked to try to fit into them.
This is the folly of imagining all pairs of shoes to be dirty, in which the wearer actually needs your help or that you live a better life.
Because it can be the direct opposite.
Perhaps you’re a really nice person. You want to do something nice for the sake of it. You help and never expect anything in return.
But from time to time, put yourself in their evil shoes and ask yourself:
“Will they help me out in times of need?”
“They have asked for many favors before, but not once offered to help. Should I help them again?”
“Every time they talk to me it’s when they need help with something. What does this say of the relationship?”
“I’ve been told by many they talk shit behind my back, yet they seem nice to me in person. Who are they, really?”
“I’ve seen them go back on their word multiple times before. Should I give them another chance?”
“Will they do the same for me as I’ve tried my best to do for others without fail?”
“Or will they conveniently create a new excuse again?”
The evil shoes are for bad people to wear, not you.
You have your own good shoes that, like any great product will fit you forever.
Never wear the evil shoes.
Just look at them from distance. Then look up, and observe carefully who is wearing them.
You’re not responsible for their choice of purchase.