How To Let Go Of Shit: It’s Not Supposed To Make Any Fucking Sense

How to let go of shit… the ultimate question. Right? We hold on to so much shit in our lives that it’s hard to really move on and look forward in life.

If you ask me, most of us do it wrong when it comes to how to let go of shit, be it the past, an old relationship or whatever.

We approach it wrongly. We go in blind and in denial. This is how it should be done if you ask me.

For a long time I held on to my anger because to me, my anger made sense. How to let go of it eluded me most of the time.

In fact, it seemed downright impossible. My anger made sense to me because:

It was a place where there was justice.

It was a zone where things made sense.

It was a feeling which empowered me with a false sense of manliness.

It was a time where I get to call the shots.

However, that effectively meant me ruminating over and over in my head revenge fantasies, like violent movies on replay.

And it felt shitty.

Of course, none of these fantasies ever came true since I am a law-abiding citizen.

I did however, end up breaking a ton of shit at home.

One day, I just got tired of it and realized there’s only one solution, and that is to simply let go.

Letting go sounds cliched, obvious and trite. And then the question how to let go makes it even more complicated and hard.

It also doesn’t even fucking make sense.

Letting go means they get away with it.

Letting go means forgiving when you don’t really want to.

Letting go means not getting your justice.

Letting go means doing all the work by yourself.

Letting go means that toxic people and bullies out there still exist.

Letting go means being called a coward by your friends when you walk away from a fight.

Letting go means knowing your partner cheated on you even though you were the best damn boyfriend or girlfriend in the world.

Letting go means a deceased loved one will never come back.

Letting go means erasing everything that meant something to you to create an unknown future.

It doesn’t matter if it makes sense or not. If you want to start learning how to let go of shit, then abandon all common sense, in a sense.

You just need to let go. You have to, whether you like it or not. You have to fuck it and move on.

The most successful people in life let go all the time.

The happiest people are always looking forward to something new.

The people at peace are at peace, in which they understand it doesn’t have to make sense.

I hope you can let go and make sense out of that at least.

Other good reads:

Stoicism: Practical Philosophy You Can Actually Use by Ryan Holiday

The Fucked-Up Messy Art Of Letting Go by Erika Napaletano

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