When it comes to leading a happy, healthy life, many are quick to say that one should start dumping the toxic people in their lives, or start to surround themselves with positive people.
It true, but it’s a lot easier said than done. It’s actually a very tricky situation.
I find that many people, in their endeavor to dump the toxic ones, they start to make too many excuses.
“I don’t like that person, but my best friend does. So I guess I still need to be around that person.”
“It’s a wedding/gathering/function where everyone’s going. I’m bound to bump into them.”
“We share the same job. I need to see that person I hate everyday for the rest of my life.”
“Gee, what will others think of me if I start acting this way?”
And so on.
How are we dumping toxic people the wrong way?
We talk about it way too much, but do so little.
We make up excuses that ironically defy the entire act of dumping.
We end up going back to square one eventually.
How do we do it right then?
Go all in.
Go cold turkey.
Go away and disappear.
If you can’t do that yet, it’s perfectly understandable.
But stop with the excuses and subsequent whining. All talk gets you nowhere.