3 Things People Say To Gaslight You (Very Controversial Short Read)

This list may be controversial, but still an important one.

Because the points are not obvious. It’s not straight up bullying, insults or lies.

They’re in my opinion, everyday remarks which are used all the time. Sadly, they do affect people deeply as we dish them out.

Let’s go.

1) “Stop shouting”

I’ve lost my temper, my cool and all my shit before simply because the other party was being extremely unreasonable and difficult.

And so, I hit my limits. I raised my voice. I yelled.

Right there and then, the argument stops. My point of view and side of the story were effectively thrown out.

I lost.

And of course, I am in the wrong immediately. Everything becomes my fault even though that’s not true. The issue is never visited again. A skewed version of the story would be told to others, putting me as the villain.

Why? Because my volume went up.

I don’t condone losing your temper and raising your voice just to get your point across. It’s immature, unclassy and downright disrespectful. It’s also fucking scary. It’s something I am working on myself.